What would you say is the most important word or phrase to learn when beginning a new language? According to Benny Lewis of Fluent in 3 Months, “Thanks” tops the list of 16 Must Know Words and Phrases for Any Language. A recent contestant on Jeopardy would agree. Her short bio revealed that, as an employee of a university, she has learned to say “thank you” in 16 or 17 languages, enabling her to express appreciation to students from many different countries.
Having just celebrated our American Thanksgiving holiday, I’ve been feeling thankful for the many good things in my life. And this week I’ll take the lesson, “Winners say please and thank you.” to the First Graders, explaining that when we feel thankful, we should let the person know by saying “thank you”. Doing so shows appreciation and respect.
That’s right, it’s not just good manners, but respectful behavior to thank those who serve us in some way. As my title suggests, there is power in speaking the words, benefits to be gained by both the One Who Thanks, and the One Who is Thanked.
For the One Who is Thanked:
- Knowing one is appreciated. We all want to feel like the things we do matter and are noticed. Being thanked assures us of that.
- Gaining motivation to continue to serve. Whether in the home or workplace, doing for others is more enjoyable when our actions are not overlooked.
For the One Who Thanks:
- A better standing with others. Respectful behavior often triggers respect.
- A more humble attitude. Recognizing our dependence on others and showing appreciation for their actions may not come naturally. At times, we may feel that we deserve what we receive or don’t need the help of others. Making a point to notice their kindness and respond with “thank you” softens our prideful attitude.
- A positive outlook. Being thankful guards against focusing on what we don’t have, turning our attention to the good qualities of life and people. When we notice the little things the people around us do and thank them, rather than see the action as just what they’re supposed to be doing, the relationship is enhanced.
- Blessing that comes from being obedient to God.
For the One Who Gives Thanks to the Lord:
- Wise recognition of “God, from whom all blessings flow.”
- “Giving thanks makes things happen,” says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs in his new book, The 4 Wills of God. We are to “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus,” (1 Thessalonians 5:18) Notice the little word “all” in that command. Giving thanks and praise to God even in painful circumstances is the right thing to do when we believe that “in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28) Could it be that thanks offered to God during and even for our difficulties become treasures stored up in heaven until the time when we see the way it turned out for good?
Every good and perfect gift is from above,
coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights,
who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17